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I hate my boss : how to survive and get ahead when your boss is a tyrant, control freak, or just plain nuts!
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Publication Information:
New York : McGraw-Hill, 1998
ISBN:
9780070691940
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Summary
Summary
Whether you work for a tyrant, a control freak, or a bona fide psychotic, this book gives you permission to hate your boss and still manage to be productive. Upbeat and offbeat, this cure for the common-dictator explains why we hate bosses, why the ``perfect boss'' is a pipe dream, how suffering under a bad boss can improve your work, why it's advantageous to be a smart follower, and how to get along--even emphatize--with even the most power-crazed ruler.
Author Notes
Bob Weinstein is a nationally known career expert and author of 10 highly acclaimed books, including Resumes Don't Get Jobs. He lives and works in New York City.
Table of Contents
Introduction So You Hate Your Boss! What Else Is New? | p. xiii |
Acknowledgments | p. xv |
Chapter 1. Grin and Bear It! | p. 1 |
Don't Be So Sensitive, It's Not Your Fault. And No, You're Not Being Punished | p. 2 |
"I'm Going to Get Along with This Person If It Kills Me" | p. 2 |
Play the Game | p. 5 |
It's Only a Job | p. 6 |
Chapter 2. It's Easy to Hate Your Boss | p. 7 |
A Relationship Built on Resentment | p. 8 |
Boss-Worker Relationships Are More Complicated Than You Think | p. 9 |
Quick Self-Test: First Base Analysis | p. 9 |
Chapter 3. Anyone can be a Boss-Even You! | p. 13 |
"You Mean My Boss Isn't God?" | p. 13 |
Who Ever Said Bosses Know What They're Doing? | p. 15 |
What Happens to Bad Bosses? Bad Boss Clinic or a Slap on the Wrist? | p. 23 |
Four Reasons People Become Bosses | p. 24 |
Chapter 4. Bosses from Hell | p. 29 |
Sicko Bosses | p. 29 |
Chapter 5. Your Boss is Just Another Person Holding Down a Job | p. 51 |
"God, Why Can't You Give Me a Perfect Boss?" | p. 51 |
Boss History | p. 53 |
"You Mean My Boss Is Actually a Human Being?" | p. 59 |
We're in This Thing Together | p. 60 |
Chapter 6. A Little Sympathy from the Audience, Please | p. 63 |
Seduced by Life's Carrots | p. 64 |
It's a Jungle Out There | p. 65 |
Chapter 7. Whatta You, Some Kind of Wimp? | p. 67 |
Critical Advice Worth Memorizing | p. 67 |
Chapter 8. The Dangers of Doing Nothing | p. 69 |
How People Do Nothing | p. 69 |
When Doing Nothing Makes Sense | p. 76 |
Chapter 9. Tuning Out Your Boss | p. 77 |
Being a Tough-Skinned Person | p. 78 |
Concentrating on Your Job | p. 79 |
Chapter 10. "My Boss is Evil and That's All There is to It" | p. 83 |
Don't Give Bosses Too Much Credit | p. 84 |
"Rate Your Boss" Questionnaire | p. 84 |
Chapter 11. "Do I Look Like Some Kind of Masochist? Why Would Anyone Want to be Like My Boss?" | p. 93 |
"I Never Realized It Would Be So Much Fun Watching My Boss Screw Up" | p. 94 |
Analyzing Bad Behavior | p. 95 |
Chapter 12. "Maybe I Should Change" | p. 99 |
"I'll Be Anything You Want Me to Be--Okay?" | p. 100 |
Changing Yourself--Easier Said Than Done | p. 101 |
Epiphany! Maybe It's Not Worth It | p. 105 |
The Envelope, Please | p. 106 |
Chapter 13. "Okay, So I'll Manage My Boss" | p. 107 |
Assess the Situation | p. 108 |
Bad Situations Don't Mend Themselves--They Only Get Worse! | p. 109 |
The Secrets of Information Gathering | p. 110 |
What Does My Boss Actually Do? How Does He or She Do It? | p. 112 |
What Are Your Boss's Habits, Work Styles, Goals, Objectives, and Values? | p. 114 |
How Does Your Boss Handle Pressure? | p. 116 |
What Is Your Boss's Management Style? | p. 116 |
What Exactly Does Your Boss Need? | p. 117 |
What Are Your Boss's Strengths and Weaknesses? | p. 119 |
What Have You Learned? | p. 120 |
The Advantages of Managing Your Boss | p. 122 |
Chapter 14. "Let's Have a Heart-to-Heart" | p. 123 |
A Last-Ditch Effort | p. 123 |
Preliminary Planning Steps | p. 124 |
Planning the Meeting | p. 126 |
Sample Meeting | p. 127 |
The Psychology of Confrontation | p. 129 |
Whoever Said Honesty Is the Best Policy? | p. 130 |
Doing the One-on-One Confrontation Two-Step: It's Simple in Concept but Difficult to Master | p. 131 |
Sample Confrontation | p. 132 |
Step Back and Hear What Your Boss Has to Say | p. 132 |
Don't Expect Your Boss to Take the First Step | p. 134 |
Absolute No-No: Don't Walk in with a Script | p. 134 |
When and Where to Stage the Meeting | p. 135 |
Final Thoughts and Suggestions | p. 136 |
Chapter 15. "So I'll Transfer to a New Department | p. 139 |
High Marks As a Temporary Measure | p. 139 |
Talent Wins Out | p. 140 |
Big Companies Offer the Best Transfer Opportunities | p. 141 |
Getting Lost in the Crowd | p. 143 |
When Transferring Can Be Dangerous | p. 143 |
Case Studies | p. 144 |
Analysis: Cool, Calm Deliberation Makes for a Smooth Transfer | p. 149 |
Chapter 16. "I Can't Take it Anymore. I'm Talking to the Big Guy!" | p. 153 |
Planning to Do Battle | p. 154 |
The Dangers of Letting Anger Get the Better of You | p. 155 |
Making All the Wrong Moves | p. 155 |
Ted's Biggest Mistake | p. 156 |
Optimal Conditions for Going Above Your Boss's Head | p. 158 |
How to Confront Your Boss's Boss: The Process | p. 160 |
Chapter 17. What Do You Do When Your Boss is Involved in Wrongdoing or is a Crook? | p. 163 |
Why Speak Up? | p. 165 |
The Worst That Will Happen Is You'll Lose Your Job | p. 166 |
You Don't Have to Put Your Job on the Line | p. 167 |
Chapter 18. Sweet Revenge: "Take This Job and Shove It." | p. 171 |
The Dangers of Losing Your Cool | p. 172 |
Getting the Last Laugh | p. 174 |
Analysis: Paying the Price | p. 176 |
Can We Replay That Scene? | p. 177 |
The Best Situations for Telling Off Your Boss | p. 178 |
Consider the Future | p. 179 |
Chapter 19. All-Purpose Strategies for Getting on with New, Indecisive, Delegator, and Other Garden Variety Bosses | p. 181 |
Score Points with a New Boss | p. 182 |
First Impressions Count | p. 182 |
Back Off and Let Your New Boss Get the Lay of the Land | p. 183 |
Wait for the SOP Meeting | p. 184 |
Manage Expectations | p. 185 |
The Personal Meeting | p. 186 |
Keep the Communication Lines Open | p. 187 |
Indecisive Bosses | p. 188 |
Delegator Bosses | p. 190 |
Bully Bosses | p. 192 |
Chapter 20. The Noble Art of Making Your Boss Look Good | p. 195 |
Warning! The Walls Have Ears | p. 195 |
What Does Making Your Boss Look Good Mean? | p. 196 |
Keep Your Boss Informed | p. 198 |
Appendix 1. One Hundred Years of Abuse | p. 201 |
A Short History of Bad Boss Behavior | p. 201 |
Appendix 2. Survival Strategies for Getting on with Difficult Bosses | p. 207 |
Dangerous Behaviors Signaling Trouble Ahead | p. 207 |
Affirmations to Purify Your Mind to Avoid Evil Thoughts About Your Boss | p. 208 |
Recommended Exercises for Boss-Haters | p. 209 |
Index | p. 211 |