Title:
Emotional vampires : dealing with the people who drain you dry
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Publication Information:
New York : MCGraw Hill, 2001
ISBN:
9780071352598
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Summary
Summary
This work provides a guide dealing with the most difficult people in the world - people who drive other people crazy. The author identifies five types of emotional vampire - narcissistic, anti-social, histrionic, the obsessive/compulsive, and the paranoid friend.
Author Notes
Albert J. Bernstein, Ph.D., is clinical psychologist, speaker, columnist, and business consultant
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments | p. xi |
1. Children of the Night: Who are these Emotional Vampires? | p. 1 |
Are They Really Vampires? | p. 3 |
Antisocial Vampires | p. 4 |
Histrionic Vampires | p. 5 |
Narcissistic Vampires | p. 6 |
Obsessive-Compulsive Vampires | p. 7 |
Paranoid Vampires | p. 8 |
2. Maturity and Mental Health: If Emotional Vampires are children, what does it take to be a grown-up? | p. 11 |
What Causes People to Become Emotional Vampires? | p. 13 |
Immaturity versus Evil | p. 13 |
The Everybody and Nobody Rule | p. 14 |
What If You See Yourself? | p. 14 |
3. The Way of Vampires: How Emotional Vampires are different, and more dangerous than other annoying people | p. 17 |
Vampires Are Different | p. 17 |
Vampires Prey on Humans | p. 19 |
Vampires Can Change Their Shapes | p. 19 |
Vampires Can't See Themselves in a Mirror | p. 20 |
Vampires Are More Powerful in the Dark | p. 20 |
A Vampire's Bite Can Turn You into a Vampire | p. 20 |
Protecting Yourself from Vampires | p. 20 |
4. Dark Powers: Emotional Vampires use hypnosis. Here's how to keep them from making you think you're a chicken | p. 23 |
The Structure of Magic | p. 24 |
Recognizing Hypnosis When You See It | p. 26 |
The Danger Signs of Hypnosis | p. 27 |
Hypnosis and Seduction | p. 29 |
What to Do If You Discover You've Been Hypnotized | p. 30 |
Part 1 The Antisocial Types: Lovable Rogues | p. 33 |
The Ferrari-Toyota Dilemma | p. 35 |
How to Recognize an Antisocial Vampire | p. 36 |
The Antisocial Emotional Vampire Checklist: Listening to the Call of the Wild | p. 37 |
5. Vampire Daredevils: Sexy, thrilling, and definitely bad for your health | p. 41 |
The Physiology of Excitement | p. 41 |
Daredevil Hypnosis | p. 42 |
How Vampires Keep You Coming Back for More | p. 44 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: Resisting the Forbidden Fruit | p. 47 |
6. Vampire Used Car Salesmen: Slicker than cheap polyester, so always remember to read the fine print | p. 53 |
Used Car Hypnosis | p. 55 |
Is Honesty Really the Best Policy? | p. 62 |
How Do You Tell If Somebody Is Lying? | p. 62 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: Protect Yourself from Predators in Polyester | p. 63 |
7. Vampire Bullies: Big, scary, powerful, and stupid as the guys who used to take lunch money | p. 69 |
The Instinct for Aggression | p. 69 |
Vampire Bully Hypnosis | p. 71 |
What to Do About Bullies | p. 71 |
How to Do the Unexpected | p. 73 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: Don't Let Vampires Kick Sand in Your Face | p. 77 |
Therapy for Antisocial Vampires | p. 84 |
Part 2 The Histrionic Types: Show Business, Vampire Style | p. 87 |
What's It Like to Be Histrionic | p. 89 |
The Histrionic Dilemma | p. 90 |
The Histrionic Vampire Checklist: Living a Soap Opera | p. 90 |
8. Vampires Who Ham It Up: Whether it's sex, sickness, or secrets of success, there's only one show business | p. 95 |
Ham-it-up Hypnosis | p. 97 |
Writing a Safe Role for Yourself | p. 99 |
Illness as Theater | p. 100 |
Histrionic Vampires and Motivation | p. 100 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: How to Keep from Joining the Cast | p. 103 |
9. Passive-Aggressive Vampires: Deliver us from ghoulies and ghosties and people who are only trying to help | p. 109 |
Giving Until It Hurts | p. 113 |
Illness as Metaphor | p. 114 |
Passive-Aggressive Hypnosis | p. 115 |
Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Relationships | p. 115 |
The High Self-Esteem Syndrome | p. 116 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: Enduring the Terrible Meek | p. 117 |
Therapy for Histrionic Vampires | p. 126 |
Part 3 The Narcissistic Types: Big Egos, Small Everywhere Else | p. 129 |
What It's Like to Be Narcissistic | p. 131 |
The Narcissistic Dilemma | p. 131 |
Narcissism and Self-Esteem | p. 132 |
The Narcissistic Vampire Checklist: Identifying the Smartest, Most Talented, All-Around Best Person in the World | p. 133 |
10. Vampires Who Are Legends in Their Own Minds: With talent like theirs, who needs performance? | p. 139 |
How Narcissistic Legends Prevent Themselves from Succeeding | p. 142 |
Narcissistic Legend Hypnosis | p. 143 |
Another Narcissistic Dilemma | p. 146 |
How to Socialize Narcissistic Legends | p. 147 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: Getting Geniuses to Do Something Useful for a Change | p. 148 |
11. Vampire Superstars: You've got to love these guys! Worship them, actually | p. 155 |
Dealing with Superstars' Insatiable Needs | p. 156 |
Special People Expect Special Treatment | p. 159 |
Who Cares What the Little People Think! | p. 160 |
Superstar Hypnosis | p. 161 |
Superstar Sex | p. 162 |
The Plot to Change Superstars' Style | p. 164 |
Superstar Depression and Anger | p. 165 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: How to Stop Being Treated Like a Groupie | p. 168 |
Therapy for Narcissistic Vampires | p. 176 |
Part 4 The Obsessive-Compulsive Types: Too Much of a Good Thing | p. 179 |
What It's Like to Be Obsessive-Compulsive | p. 181 |
How Much Is Too Much? | p. 181 |
Punishment, Where Good and Evil Meet | p. 182 |
The Obsessive-Compulsive Vampire Checklist: Vice Masquerading as Virtue | p. 183 |
12. Vampire Perfectionists and Puritans: Can the undead be anal-retentive? | p. 187 |
Why Do They Always Seem Angry? | p. 188 |
Obsessive-Compulsive Hypnosis | p. 188 |
Product versus Process | p. 189 |
Demanding Priorities | p. 190 |
Perfectionists | p. 191 |
How the Imperfect Can Deal with Perfectionists | p. 193 |
Puritans | p. 194 |
Why Are Puritans So Mean? | p. 195 |
Dealing with Puritans without Getting Burned | p. 196 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: What to Do When the Good Guys Are After You | p. 199 |
Therapy for Obsessive-Compulsive Vampires | p. 204 |
Part 5 The Paranoid Types: Seeing Things That Others Can't | p. 207 |
Paranoid Purity | p. 209 |
What It's Like to Be Paranoid | p. 210 |
The Narcissist-Paranoid Dilemma | p. 211 |
The Paranoid Emotional Vampire Checklist: Next Stop, the Twilight Zone | p. 211 |
13. Vampire Visionaries and Green-Eyed Monsters: Inspiration always involves blowing things out of proportion | p. 215 |
The Paranoid Quest | p. 215 |
Paranoid Hypnosis | p. 216 |
Visionaries | p. 217 |
How to Recognize Crazy Ideas | p. 218 |
Paranoids and Religion | p. 221 |
Green-Eyed Monsters | p. 221 |
The 10 Elements of Vampire Fighting Strategy: How to Give Paranoids a Glimpse of Reality | p. 225 |
Therapy for Paranoid Vampires | p. 230 |
Sunrise at Carfax Abbey | p. 233 |
Index | p. 235 |