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Your defiant teen : 10 steps to resolve conflict and rebuild your relationship
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Edition:
2nd ed.
Publication Information:
New York : Guilford Press, 2014
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x, 372 pages ; 23 cm.
ISBN:
9781462511662

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If life with your teen has become a battleground, it's time to take action. This empathic book shows how. Trusted psychologists who have worked with thousands of families give you the tools you need to overcome defiance and get teen behavior back on track. By following the authors' clinically proven 10-step program, learn how you can:



*Reestablish your authority while building trust.

*Identify and enforce nonnegotiable rules.

*Use rewards and incentives that work.

*Communicate and problem-solve effectively--even in the heat of the moment.

*Restore positive feelings in your relationship.

*Develop your teen's skills for becoming a successful adult.



Vivid stories and answers to frequently asked questions help you put the techniques into action. The updated second edition incorporates new scientific research on why some teens have more problems with self-control than others. Practical forms and worksheets can be downloaded and printed in a convenient 8 1/2" x 11" size.



Mental health professionals, see also the authors' Defiant Teens, Second Edition: A Clinician's Manual for Assessment and Family Intervention. For a focus on younger children, see also Dr. Barkley's Defiant Children, Third Edition (for professionals), and Your Defiant Child, Second Edition (for parents).


Author Notes

Russell A. Barkley, PhD, ABPP, ABCN, before retiring in 2021, served on the faculties of the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, the Medical University of South Carolina, and Virginia Commonwealth University. Dr. Barkley has worked with children, adolescents, and families since the 1970s and is the author of numerous bestselling books for both professionals and the public, including Taking Charge of ADHD and Your Defiant Child . He has also published six assessment scales and more than 300 scientific articles and book chapters on attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, executive functioning, and childhood defiance. A frequent conference presenter and speaker who is widely cited in the national media, Dr. Barkley is past president of the Section on Clinical Child Psychology (the former Division 12) of the American Psychological Association (APA), and of the International Society for Research in Child and Adolescent Psychopathology. He is a recipient of awards from the American Academy of Pediatrics and the APA, among other honors. His website is www.russellbarkley.org .



Arthur L. Robin, PhD, is Director of Psychology Training at Children's Hospital of Michigan and Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neurosciences at Wayne State University. Dr. Robin is a practicing psychologist with more than 40 years of clinical experience.



Christine M. Benton is a Chicago-based writer and editor.


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Publisher's Weekly Review

Barkley, research professor of psychiatry at SUNY-Syracuse Medical University and author (with Benton) of Your Defiant Child, and Robin (director of psychology training at Children's Hospital of Michigan) share between them 60 years of clinical and research experience studying the defiant behavior of children and adolescents. The first part of their comprehensive defiance-busting system helps parents define and assess the problem. The authors provide a chart to help readers gauge their child's behavior, then outline four factors that contribute to defiance: the teen's and parents' characteristics (which are unchanging), stress (which can be alleviated somewhat) and parenting style (which can be substantially modified). Part Two delves into the principles for reversing or preventing defiance, with sections on "one-on-one" time (including how to accomplish this with an uninterested teen), managing behavior and choosing appropriate punishments and rewards, to name a few. Without placing blame, the authors reveal that parents often unwittingly make a bad situation worse; the text gives solid tips on how to work toward a positive outcome and offers a variety of scenarios, demonstrating precisely how a parent's words and actions can be the source of a teen's compliant or defiant response. In the end, the authors offer a useful and detailed approach that respects the rights and expectations of parents and teens. (Feb.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved


Table of Contents

Introduction
I You and Your Defiant Teen
1 What Defiance Is--and What You Should Do about It
2 How Defiance Develops
3 What Does Adolescence Have to Do with It?
4 Is It Just Your Teen's Personality?
5 Where Do You Come In?
6 How to Find a Way Out
II 10 Steps to a Better Relationship with Your Teen--and a Better Future for Your Teen
7 Getting Ready
8 Step 1. Making Positive One-on-One Time a Habit
9 Step 2. A New Way to Manage Behavior
10 Step 3. Contracts and Point Systems: How Teens Can Earn Privileges
11 Step 4. Making the Punishment Really Fit the Crime
12 Step 5. Tackling Additional Issues with Rewards and Penalties
13 Step 6. Addressing Defiant Behavior in School and Conflicts over Homework
14 Step 7. Using Problem-Solving Skills
15 Step 8. Learning and Practicing Communication Skills
16 Step 9. Dealing with Unreasonable Beliefs and Expectations
17 Step 10. Keeping It Together
Appendix A Sample Problem-Solving Worksheets
Appendix B How to Find a Therapist
Resources